http://traffic.libsyn.com/matinghabitsofthemoderngeek/Ep71_MHMG.mp3
I infiltrate Alpha Counter Studios and bring Sean Ryan and The Business, LLC back for Episode 71 – the one where we cover the controversial topic of Enthusiastic/Affirmative Consent, and why it’s important.
The Business almost ruins a budding friendship by drunk live tweeting Justice League episodes, and tries to salvage things by inviting his new friend on a beat ’em up side scroller. This is why we can’t have nice things.
Sean gets sunburned at a crowded bdsm-themed bungalow at the beach and meets a beautiful man named Ram Gabriel.
While they were sunning and funning at the beach, I stayed home and had a yard sale – don’t be too jealous. And my copies of Exploding Kittens finally got here!!
We tackle the idea of enthusiastic and affirmative consent: What is it? Why do we need it? What’s with the double standard? What does it say about you, as a person, if the concept of affirmative consent is unacceptable to you? (HINT: If it bothers you too much, you might be part of the problem.)
This is the best visual example of why this is important:
We flip new tables about bad communicators, the impregnable login guards at Steam, and how Trigger Warnings have gotten out of damn hand.
LINKS!
http://www.theloop.ca/this-woman-just-explained-consent-with-the-most-perfect-metaphor/
http://persephonemagazine.com/2012/05/why-do-people-hate-the-concept-of-enthusiastic-consent/
http://www.doctornerdlove.com/2013/03/enthusiastic-consent/
http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2015/jan/29/rape-consent-sexual-partner-enthusiasm
http://www.cnn.com/2014/09/03/living/affirmative-consent-school-policy/
http://thinkprogress.org/health/2014/06/25/3453041/affirmative-consent-really-means/
The double standard here is a problem.
Here’s how I boil down at least my own scruples on consent: Proceed until he/she says no. I want to encourage people to be bold and not be terrified to go for it if they’re into someone. Just understand that when the other person draws the line, you respect that. If they’re pretty wasted, let them sober up first before making your move…or just make your move another night.