Episode 14 – Confident vs Creepy: How to Flirt without a Restraining Order

Join us while Kris and I argue about the effectiveness of pick-up lines and discuss the benefits of honesty, the problem with arrogance, and the violation of boundaries. We share personal experiences, give examples of doing it wrong, and make suggestions for questions to ask when meeting someone for the first time.

So, be polite, be calm, learn from your mistakes, and as always, BE BRAVE – just remember: Other people are people too.



Episode 4 – Player’s Guide

It’s here!

Episode 4 – Player’s Guide – Stacking your buffs to make for the smoothest date possible


Picture it:

Midnight in a seedy hotel in the American South.

A woman, hell-bent on helping geeks in need become the dating experts they long to be.

Enter:  Two handsome gentlemen, Tim and Kris, braving the dangers of the late night to assist in getting down and dirty with the details about dating.*

Sounds like something pretty amazing is about to happen in this week’s episode of Mating Habits…come on in and enjoy.

*This podcast was recorded at midnight after a very long day in our fancy podcast studio – I apologize for the raspy voices and the punch-drunk sleepiness of your host.

So, it begins…

Welcome to what I hope will be a fun and informative journey, navigating the obstacles and challenges of dating in the Geek world to ultimately find your way to the relationship of your dreams.

In order to secure my position as the correct woman for this job, I’ll give you my Geek Resume – a CV of time spent earning my Bachelors of Science in TARDIS, followed by my PhD in Trek Studies.

My geek credentials are myriad — I mean, I just used the word, “Myriad,” — but if you need further proof, I’ll sum up things by saying I’m a Science Fiction/Fantasy RPG Gamer Geek who has played every type of game from Table-Top Warhammer Fantasy to Dungeons and Dragons 2-3.5 (I still contend that 4 was an empty, soulless attempt to ruin everything ever). I have logged hundreds of console hours playing Mass Effect, Dragon Age, Left 4 Dead, and Tenchu Z. I have emoted and RP-walked through weeks-worth of World of Warcraft and Star Wars, The Old Republic. This doesn’t even take into account the amount of time I’ve spent enjoying TV, Movies, Comics, and Novels that span the genres — let’s just say I’ve been Aiming to Misbehave ever since Han Solo shot first.

If you’ve read this far, I invite you to also consider my love history. I’ve been on dates…lots and lots of dates…like, a bunch of damn dates. Sprinkle in a smattering of long-term relationships, and you’ve got 20 years-worth of expectation, gratification, and rejection.

I have a lot of things to say about geeks dating other geeks, and I have the advice that many of you might need to get your foot in the door of the cranky neighbor known as “Love.”

This blog will be a companion piece to a podcast by the same name, available on iTunes – it’s free, so what do you have to lose?

I hope you’ll find it informative and inspiring – or at least funny. Feedback is my friend, so feel free to comment and ask questions, or follow me on Twitter @Kelleydisagrees and Direct Message me with anything and everything.

Buckle Up, because it’s about to get geekish.